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Does life feel like its getting on top of you?
Could you benefit from a place to take some time-out?
... to explore your thoughts and feelings
... to get back on a front foot again
My name is Patricia and I am a registered Counsellor and Hypnotherapist working in private practice from my home in Wigan, Lancashire which is easily accessible from areas throughout the Greater Manchester area and Lancashire. I am easily reached from Bolton, which is 7 miles and central Manchester, 13 miles.
I am committed to providing therapy in a safe, confidential and non-judgemental environment. I welcome people of all nationalities and cultures and from the LGBTQ community.
I lived and worked in London for over 25 years until moving back home to the North West. During my time in London, I worked with diverse communities and am knowledgeable and respectful of religious beliefs, cultures, economic status, sexuality and gender identity, understanding that particular experiences, upbringing and background can be important factors in understanding your situation. That said, I respect the fact that every person is an individual with issues, experiences and feelings that are unique to them.
I worked for many years in Social Care, with adults with learning disabilities and mental health issues, including those on the autistic spectrum and with Asperger's.
I also volunteered for The Terrance Higgins Trust supporting people living with HIV and AIDS.
I work with individuals and couples in both short and long term Counselling/Psychotherapy and individuals for Hypnotherapy, with the aim of enabling you to enhance your life and to live it more fully.
I do not use Hypnotherapy in sessions unless you have specifically requested it.
I am experienced in helping clients who have had difficulties with, but not exclusively :
If your area of concern is not mentioned, please call to discuss if it is something I will be able to help you with.
About Counselling & Psychotherapy
I am an integrative therapist which means I do not adhere to one approach but use a variety of modalities that best suit you, the client. Therapy is as individual as you are. It is a working relationship between client and therapist and I will help guide you through the barriers and difficulties that are preventing you from achieving your goals and living the life you want.
It can be short or long term and this does not need to be decided on at the start of therapy but it important to understand that it is a commitment and the greatest benefits are found with clients willing to put in the hard work in regular sessions.
Some people find that simply having someone to talk to and tell their story is all they need, whilst others wish to explore deeper issues from their past that are impacting on their present and preventing them from moving forward. During our time together we will check in with each other as we go to see how you are feeling about continuing with your sessions. You are at the centre of this and it will be your decision. However, it is important to be aware that therapy can be difficult at times and overcoming those difficulties allows for breakthroughs and growth. It can be tempting to retreat from therapy when the going gets tough but perseverance brings great rewards.
What is Psychotherapy as opposed to Counselling?
The two terms are really interchangeable but generally Psychotherapy is longer term work which explores past experiences that impact on your current way of being. I often get told by people that they have not found any benefit from counselling in the past. This is typically because they have had a short term, limited number of sessions often via the NHS which is usually only able to offer six sessions. It takes time to build up rapport and trust with your therapist and in a short period it is not possible to explore and more importantly, work through deeper issues.
There is a misconception that talking therapies are simply the client telling their concerns to the therapist who listens empathetically. This of course is true but it is much more than that. Often clients think that because they are able to talk openly about difficult past events for example, that they are now "OK with it." Over a period of time, past experiences and in some cases, trauma may be explored with the therapist who uses her experience and knowledge to interpret issues and help the client to recognise how they are impacting on current feelings and behaviours. This longer term work helps to shift these difficulties and allows the client to move forward so they no longer influence the present. It is important for me to assure you that you will lead the sessions and I will not explore any areas until you are ready.
What issues Can it Help?
The short answer is many and endless. Humans are complex beings and my experience has shown me that clients often come to counselling for one issue (the presenting issue) only for different ones to be revealed as our work together progresses. This is because, for example, if someone is coming due to feelings of stress and anxiety, other issues will often come to light when exploring the anxious feelings. This should be seen as positive growth and enlightenment. Therapy, particularly psychotherapy and longer term work, enables the development of greater self-awareness and allows the client to recognise how past experiences and relationships have informed their present.
What Benefits can be Expected?
Therapy can help you to really get to know yourself and also to recognise traits and behaviours in others that you have relationships with. It can help you understand why you are feeling the way you are and how people in your life affect you. It will help you to explore the relationships you had or are still having with parents/caregivers, partners, siblings, work colleagues and how they can "push your buttons." Perhaps you feel put down by others, criticised, made to feel not good enough.
Therapy can help you to see that this is not your fault and can build your confidence, self-esteem and resilience to negative people and life events.
"You cannot see your reflection in boiling water"
Where there is anger and conflict in a relationship, couples can find themselves unable to see clearly and may become stuck in repetitive patterns that prevent them from resolving issues.
I work with couples in an impartial, non-judgmental way, helping you to work through issues and see things more clearly in order to find solutions to your own, unique situation.
Couples' therapy gives you a safe space to speak honestly about your feelings, having room to talk and be listened to. It can be very hard for partners to really hear and understand the other's point of view and this is where I can help.
One or both of you may have made the decision to end the relationship and even if this is mutually agreed, there may still be feelings of grief at the loss of it and even feelings of failure. These are all perfectly natural and part of my work with couples includes helping them to make peace with these feelings in order to find closure and to move forward into the future with optimism.
There are many myths associated with Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy.
People often think of stage hypnotists who 'make' people behave in a silly way and have them say or do things that they later don't remember.
Thankfully this practice seems to have gone out of favour and thank goodness!
Please be assured that Hypnotherapy is nothing like this.
During Hypnotherapy, whilst you will be in a relaxed state, you will always be aware of yourself and your surroundings. You are in control and can never be made to do or say anything that you would not do normally when completely conscious.
Hypnosis 'speaks to' the unconscious part of the mind. It can shift deep held, negative beliefs a person has about themself in order to change the conscious way they behave.
For example: Low self-esteem may be borne out of the way someone was parented. If you were criticised throughout your upbringing then, your unconscious will hold the belief you have about yourself, what you think is the truth about who you are. This is wrong.
Think about when you are walking or driving to a familiar place. How often have you found yourself at your destination and not realised how you got there, as if you were on 'autopilot' ? It happens to us all numerous times a day, like daydreaming. When driving, you don't think every time you change gear do you? These are examples of being in a hypnotic state, where our unconscious takes over. When we no longer have to think of every move we make, it 'drops into' our unconscious mind.
Hypnosis can work to change your unconscious and create a new way that you see yourself. The true you!
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"Patricia has helped me through some dark times. Firstly with hypnotherapy then with counselling. I cannot recommend her services highly enough. Thank you for helping me be me".