I am an integrative counsellor which means I do not adhere to one approach but use a variety of modalities that best suit you, the client. Therapy is as individual as you are. It is a working relationship between client and therapist and I will help guide you through the barriers and difficulties that are preventing you from achieving your goals and living the life you want.
It can be short or long term and this does not need to be decided on at the start of therapy.
Some people find that simply having someone to talk to and tell their story is all they need, whilst others wish to explore deeper issues from their past that are impacting on their present and preventing them from moving forward. During our time together we will check in with each other as we go to see how you are feeling about continuing with your sessions. You are at the centre of this and it will be your decision. However, it is important to be aware that therapy can be difficult at times and overcoming those difficulties allows for breakthroughs and growth. It can be tempting to retreat from therapy when the going gets tough but perseverance brings great rewards.
What issues Can it Help?
The short answer is many and endless. Humans are complex beings and my experience has shown me that clients often come to counselling for one issue (the presenting issue) only for different ones to be revealed as our work together progresses. This is because, for example, if someone is coming due to feelings of stress and anxiety, other issues will often come to light when exploring the anxious feelings. This should be seen as positive growth and enlightenment. Therapy, particularly psychotherapy and longer term work, enables the development of greater self-awareness and allows the client to recognise how past experiences and relationships have informed their present.
What Benefits can be Expected?
Therapy can help you to really get to know yourself and also to recognise traits and behaviours in others that you have relationships with. It can help you understand why you are feeling the way you are and how people in your life affect you. It will help you to explore the relationships you had or are still having with parents/caregivers, partners, siblings, work colleagues and how they can "push your buttons." Perhaps you feel put down by others, criticised, made to feel not good enough.
Therapy can help you to see that this is not your fault and can build your confidence, self-esteem and resilience to negative people and life events.
"You cannot see your reflection in boiling water"
Where there is anger and conflict in a relationship, couples can find themselves unable to see clearly and may become stuck in repetitive patterns that prevent them from resolving issues.
I work with couples in an impartial, non-judgmental way, helping you to work through issues and see things more clearly in order to find solutions to your own, unique situation.
Couples' therapy gives you a safe space to speak honestly about your feelings, having room to talk and be listened to. It can be very hard for partners to really hear and understand the other's point of view and this is where I can help.